couples therapy

This comic by Sara Lautman was published on The Hairpin yesterday, and it is quite wonderful. Sara and I were apartment-mates for a time in Brooklyn, along with our then-significant others (not the one featured in the comic).

The first time I met her she was wearing a sailor shirt, and we were at Sidewalk Cafe in Manhattan; the band she was in with my then-boyfriend was playing a show there.

Here is my attempt at a sketch of Sara with her wild red hair:

sara lautman


5 years

I just read this post by Maura Foley on The Hairpin while waiting for water to boil for my coffee.

She writes about struggling to get to that 5 year mark– the famous one in Cancer World, the one that if reached means the cancer is way less likely to come back. My mom was so close too. At about four and a half years, just about 3 months after her annual mammogram that declared her cancer free, it came back.

I hope this girl’s dad makes it, and I hope he gets to live a lot longer. I lived with that worry about the cancer coming back for so long, telling myself that my mom was okay, that she was “better.” But as Maura writes, there is no “cure,” only windows. Somehow my body knew that Mama wasn’t “all better,” and my mind fought with this instinct for four years. And then it came back, or was never really gone. And then she got a year longer than any doctor thought she would. And then she started dying. And then she died. Now I live with a different feeling in the back of my mind all the time: a huge hole, a constant reminder, Mama is not here.

The water’s ready, I’ve steeped the coffee in the french press. Now I’m going to sit on my little porch and draw some flowers.

new lady comics and bras

It’s such a pleasure to come across a new webcomic that I didn’t know about before, especially when there’s a full archive of comics for me to scroll through and read. Especially if it’s done by a lady cartoonist. And especially if it’s really good. Today such a delight occurred!

I discovered Esther C. Weridger’s comic on The Hairpin. Here is a link to my favorite one so far. Her style reminds me of Sylvia by Nicole Hollander, a comic which I hold near and dear to my heart.

And now….another underwear comic! Happy Mother’s Day yesterday! Love you Mama.